What do you think it might be that stops you from having what you want?

It is not outside forces, conditions, environments or other people. It may seem that it is, but I promise you it is not.

I talk with wonderful women who are unhappy, stuck and even know what they want to do or have but they can’t move forward even when the solution is clear and available. Why is that?

It’s not lack of money or time which are the two favorite means we use to stop ourselves. I know this because I’ve used them myself. Think for a moment of something you just HAD to have. The desire was so strong! Probably a material item or something for your kids or another loved one, or friend. You made it happen! You somehow found the money or made the time available.

The urge to ‘give’ and ‘nurture’ is very strong for women, it’s in our nature. But when it comes to giving and nurturing ourselves we put on the brakes. Desire and Deserving aren’t in the same sentence when it comes to ourselves. Why?

Sometimes it’s a feeling that if we aren’t sacrificing something we aren’t deserving. So we sacrifice what we want for whatever convenient reason we can come up with in order to ‘feel’ more deserving, but we still don’t get what we want. There is a danger here of becoming a martyr and that’s fatal for all relationships especially the one with yourself. I watched a loved one do this to herself and how miserable her life became as a result.

It’s important to know you don’t do this consciously, it’s usually unconscious.

Yes, there IS the Universal Law of Sacrifice, and this is actually what it means:‘”To give up something of a lower nature in order to gain something of a higher nature.” This could mean giving up some TV time to read a self help book. It could mean putting your money on an educational course or coaching or a monthly massage instead of magazines, dining out, daily Starbucks, etc. It does not mean that you give at the expense of yourself & become an empty shell.

So, the Law of Sacrifice shows you that you can have what you want without becoming a martyr and strong desire shows you just what you can achieve. But there is one more thing…..

We women are actually fearful of getting what we want because WE ARE AFRAID OF OUR REAL POWER and often don’t know what to do with it. So we play small and don’t invest in ourselves with money or time. And we unconsciously find the ways to remain playing small.

Hear this: The Universe is much more excited to give you an amazing life; a successful business, loving relationship, glowing health, not just a small profit, a so-so relationship or partial good health. You were sent here to experience success in all things.

When you step into the way the how appears. There is no other time than now. The past is to learn from and the future is for you to mold. You can’t worry about the time.

What you should do:

1. Know that thoughts of lack, excuses and manipulation will stop the flow.

2. Money is just energy, it needs to circulate, once you begin hoarding, the flow stops. This does not mean you become irresponsible with money, but you must keep it circulating. You control your money, it does not control you. If you do not ‘invest’ in yourself, you will gain no ‘interest’. You cannot grow. Make better choices with your money, don’t hoard it out of fear of losing it. Money is always replaceable, your life isn’t. Growing does require some risk, but make it a calculated, wise risk.

3. Likewise your time. You plan it and you control it, but it will take a bit of concentrated time to schedule how you spend it. And then stick to it.

4. If you feel stuck for the right answer, know that it is within you not outside of you. Do this: Ground yourself in a sitting position and picture a golden light above your head that descends and provides a circle of light surrounding your body. Stop your mind from trying to control everything, relax and breathe as you go into that deep place inside of you, the place where the Universe lives in all of us. Ask your question such as “What is coming up for me now?” “Where it it coming from?” “What path should I follow?” etc. And then quietly listen for the answer.

Just ask. Not from a place of fear, not from a place of trying to control the answer and just accept what comes, even if it seems impossible. Nothing is impossible. Look at the word: “I’m-possible”.

If you know what you want then just ask for it as you visualize yourself having already received it.

Your assignment:

Do the above exercise every day for seven days and write down the results. I’d love it if you would email them to me if you are comfortable doing so!

If you have confusion around your fears and getting what you want, you can talk to me about strategies to change all this in my free 30 minute strategy session: http://www.inspirationalgoaling.com/free-strategy-session/

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